A person¡¯s voice is like an instrument played. Perhaps the most powerful sound in the world. It¡¯s because only human beings are able to cause war through words or say they love someone. Words play such an important role. However, sometimes when people talk, they think that the other person is not focused on what they are saying. Why? How can you get the other person to want to hear what you are saying? Furthermore, how can you speak so powerfully that you can make a difference in the world?
To speak with influence, you have to break away from your usual unconscious habits. I hope it will be an opportunity for readers to carefully think about the positive and negative habits I will mention here, and how they impact their lives.
The first negative habit is gossiping. It is not a good habit to insult and swear at those who are not present. Also, as we all know, one who speaks ill of someone with us can speak ill of us in the future. Second, people who are negative about everything say unconstructive things. Then it¡¯s hard to listen from the perspective of the listener.
Another extremely negative habit is incessant complaining. When it¡¯s unusually hot like this summer, people complain about the weather, and when various issues come up on the news, they complain about it also. It is, undoubtedly, difficult to remain positive under such circumstances, and these complaints can spread like viruses to people and affect them adversely with the net effect that everyone becomes entangled in a web of negativity.
Thirdly, there is criticism. This is to blame others indifferently and to take no responsibility for your own actions. It is much easier to heap criticism than to offer constructive suggestions. We should be mindful of the old adage that hindsight is always 20/20.
Finally we have exaggerating. A person who often fibs the facts and embellishes the truth will soon lose all credibility. Also, it is true that the case of exaggeration, more often than not, ends up being a lie and no one wants to hear what a liar says.
The aforementioned things can be seen as bad habits that people should break away from. Thus, how can I say something affirmative and affect people positively? I would like to suggest four important factors in speaking using the acronym, ¡®Hail.¡¯ We all know the basic dictionary definition of this word is ice falling from the sky, but it also means praise. I created an acronym by adding meaning to the letters that make up this word. H is for Honesty. People have to be honest with what they want to say. This includes speaking simply and clearly. There is, however, no need to be brutally honest and hurting others in the name of honesty. There is always room for little white lies to help someone save face or avoid embarrassment. A is for Authenticity. Simply put, people should be able to stand in the truth they want to tell. I is for integrity, which means that what people say may have to be true for themselves. L is for Love, not only in a romantic sense but also a wish for others to be well.
People¡¯s words are said to be like instruments. The instrument is incredibly good, but it¡¯s also in a sad neglected state where almost no one has opened the box. From now on, I hope people will have time to open this box and take a closer look at every corner of it and develop the power to speak only what and when they need. And then, may their words be honest and authentic, and overflowing with integrity and love. Also, I think the world will be filled with beautiful sounds if people adjust their accent and intensity in speaking according to the situation, just like the harmony of the instruments. I hope there will be a world where understanding is common, and a world without unnecessary arguments.